Hello, my illustrious Internet adventurers and drama devotees! It’s your favorite sassy and slightly cynical commentator, Roger, bringing you yet another saga from the world of *I-can’t-believe-this-is-my-life* and yes, it’s a real Reddit story from a real person. So, buckle up, buttercups, we’re diving headfirst into a matrimonial mess that’s juicier than your grandma’s Thanksgiving turkey.
Imagine, if you will, the scene: love is in the air, wedding bells are about to ring, and then—bam!—an affair shatters the idyllic dreams of not one, but two seemingly happy couples. Our protagonist, a 25-year-old bride-to-be, finds herself in a nightmarish pickle when her cousin Susan and her friend Steve decide that the sparks flying between them are worth igniting, consequences be damned. Yes, dear readers, we’re talking matrimonial treason at its finest.
Our bride is left with no choice but to rewrite the guest list for her upcoming nuptials, deciding that those who canoodled outside their sanctioned partnerships were not fit for the wedding court. However, true to wedding drama fashion, this decision could not simply be accepted with grace. Susan, the cousin and one half of the controversial couple, decided to throw a hissy fit worthy of a reality TV meltdown, blaming our protagonist for an array of injustices, from not being supportive to executing family betrayal. The audacity, folks!
Here’s the thing—weddings are stressful enough without the added flair of infidelity and familial guilt-tripping. Our leading lady merely sought to ensure her day was tainted by as little drama as possible, a noble pursuit if you ask me. Yet, somehow, she’s left questioning whether she’s the villain in this Shakespearean tragedy.
So, let’s dissect this like we’re back in high school English class, shall we? On one hand, we have Susan, a woman scorned, not by her lover, but by the very bonds of family and friendship she betrayed. On the other, our hapless heroine, who wanted nothing more than a day of love and joy, now clouded by controversy.
Now, dear readers, you might be wondering where I, Roger, stand on this spicy conundrum. Well, strap in for Roger’s Hot Take—the place where subtlety comes to die and opinions shine brighter than a disco ball at Studio 54.
Drumroll, please… Our bride is decidedly *not* the asshole. There, I said it. In the game of life, when you choose to play with fire, you’re bound to get burned, and sometimes, that burn comes in the form of being benched at a wedding. Love and loyalty are the cornerstones of any enduring relationship, and when those are compromised, well, consequences ensue. Susan’s reaction is the cherry on top of an already melting sundown sundae—bitter, unnecessary, and leaving everyone with a stomachache.
This tale isn’t just about wedding etiquette or familial obligations; it’s a lesson in accountability, in understanding that our actions ripple outwards, affecting more than just our immediate gratification. It’s a hard pill to swallow, sure, but it’s also an opportunity for growth—if only Susan could see that.
To our protagonist, I say, march on. Your wedding day is a celebration of love, a love that has clearly withstood more than its fair share of trials. Surround yourself with those who exemplify the love and respect you and your fiancé share, and let the rest be a footnote in your epic love story.
And to you, my delectable readers, remember, in the grand banquet of life, always choose the table farthest from the drama. Or, at the very least, bring popcorn.
Until next time, Roger out.
Original story
Bare with me cause this might be a little long…
I (25 F) and my fiance (25 M) have been together for 7.5 years. We got engaged back in February of 2023 and we are getting married this August 2024.
We invited 6 people each to be in our wedding, not including our 3 flower girls.
4 of those people we were particularly close to, hanging out as a group multiple times a week, usually. I would have considered us a group of best friends for the past 2-3 years.
Let’s name the other couples Susan & Paul and Bonnie & Steve.
Susan and Paul have been married for a few years but have been together for much longer. Susan is my cousin and their daughter was a flower girl.
Bonnie and Steve are our very close friends. They have been in a long term relationship, pushing close to a decade and just had a baby months before.
To get to the point, Susan and Steve had an affair. From what I heard, a pretty long and serious one… As you could probably guess, it put a damper on our wedding plans, we wanted everyone there. Unfortunately, that just couldn’t happen anymore and we were forced to make changes.
After talking with my fiance, we decided the best thing to do was sit out the 2 people that made the mistake, and allow Paul and Bonnie the option to participate if they’d still like. Of course, we still want Susan and Steve to come as guests. Side note: Both couples are working on and trying to fix their relationships.
Bonnie decided to follow through with the wedding, Paul decided to sit out and they took their daughter out as well (which we totally understand)
When my fiance let Steve know he’d have to sit out, he was very understanding, apologetic, and didn’t blame my fiance at all.
Unfortunately, I can’t say the same for Susan. She was very very upset, blaming me for not being there for her and making me feel guilty for not kicking Bonnie out. She felt it was my responsibility to reach out to her and console her. She used the family card, saying she would never pick someone who wasn’t family over me. She blamed me and my family for not making her feel welcomed and told me she wouldn’t be there at all.
I feel really bad that she’s hurting, and I do truly still want to have my friendship with Susan, but she will not see my side at all. 🤦🏼♀️
Am I the asshole???