The Wedding Dress Drama: A Sassy Exposé
Alright, darlings, buckle up for a bridal saga that might make you reconsider who you invite to your wedding dress fitting. Today we’ve got a juicy tale pulled straight from Reddit (aka the therapy couch of the Internet)—and let me tell you, it’s a doozy.
The Cast of Characters
Enter our protagonist, a 25-year-old bride-to-be, who we’ll call Bella (because, why not?). Bella is set to tie the knot with her fiancé, let’s name him Edward, next year. Her entourage includes her best friend and Maid of Honour, Alice, and bridesmaid Bonnie. The supporting cast features Bella’s mother, sister, future mother-in-law, and future sister-in-law. What could possibly go wrong with this heartwarming, picture-perfect troupe, you ask? Oh, darling, let’s dive in.
The Dreaded Dress Appointment
Picture this: Bella’s brimming with excitement, butterflies doing the cha-cha in her stomach as she steps into a lush bridal boutique. She’s been dreaming about this moment ever since she was old enough to say “bling-bling.” Surrounded by her nearest and dearest, she’s expecting a soirée of tears, joy, and, of course, compliments.
But instead of fairy-tale magic, Bella gets served a cold dish of Ceramic Silence. Her BFF Alice and bridesmaid Bonnie spend the whole event whispering to each other, snickering like they’re in high school all over again, with zero feedback, zero compliments, nada. Baby, it’s colder than Elsa’s ice palace in there.
The Grand Fiasco
Now, Bella tries on gown after gown, each more stunning than the last, but her so-called friends remain mute. Even when she finds the dress that puts sparkles in her mom’s eyes (she’s actually crying, y’all!), Alice and Bonnie don’t budge. Finally, after what feels like an ice age, Alice pipes up only to throw shade at an off-the-shoulder dress. Real classy, Alice.
Bella is beyond mortified. Her sister and future sister-in-law feel her pain, and the latter even messages Edward to spill the tea. Edward, bless his soul, encourages Bella to have the ‘talk’ with her friends because, let’s be real, no one deserves to be surrounded by the Grinch while picking out a wedding dress.
The Confrontation
So Bella, trying to keep it civil, approaches Alice and Bonnie, aka the Dynamic Downers, to politely ask why they were such party poopers. Big shocker: they think they did nothing wrong and go as far as to say they had a blast. Excuse me, what kind of fun are we talking about? Certainly not the Hallmark kind.
Reddit’s Verdict
Ah, Reddit, the sage of modern dilemmas, jumps in to console our beleaguered bride. The consensus? This behavior isn’t a one-off; it’s a pattern of toxicity that Bella has been enduring for far too long.
It also comes to light that during the fitting, Bonnie was picking out dresses for herself (excuse me, what?) and being rude to Bella’s future MIL. Oh honey, this bridal party needs a serious overhaul, stat.
Roger’s Sass Master Opinion
Gather ‘round, ladies and gents, because Uncle Roger’s got a mouthful to say. Bella, sweetheart, you are not the asshole here. Far from it. You showed more grace and restraint than these ‘friends’ deserve. Here’s my two cents:
If Alice and Bonnie can’t step up to the plate and support you on one of the most important days of your life, they shouldn’t be in your bridal party—heck, they shouldn’t even be in the same ZIP code on your wedding day. You deserve people who’ll shower you with love and support, not shade and snickers.
And to anyone else out there stuck with frenemies, remember: life’s too short for toxic friendships. Dump the divas and surround yourself with people who make your heart sing—not sink.
There you have it, darlings. A wedding dress drama that’s both cringe-worthy and a lesson in who deserves a front-row seat in your life.
Until next time, stay sassy!
Original story
AITA for calling out my friends over their behaviour at my wedding dress appointment?
I’m 25F, getting married to my fiancée 27M, next year. My best friend, A (25F) is maid of honour, and my friend, B (24F) is a bridesmaid, along with my sister and fiancées sister.
I had a private wedding dress try on at a really lovely store close to where I live. My mother, sister, MIL, SIL, maid of honour and bridesmaid were present for this try on, as I was allowed 6 guests, and wanted them all to be involved.
I have dreamed of trying on wedding dresses for a long time, and wanted a nice moment with the people closest to me. Instead, I was left feeling quite humiliated, embarrassed and upset after the appointment.
I did end up choosing and buying a dress. Both my maid of honour (A) and bridesmaid (B), spent the entirety of the appointment, where I tried in different dresses and showed everyone (to ask for opinions and feedback), whispering to each other, laughing and offering no feedback or even a positive comment / compliment to any single wedding dress I tried on.
Even when I found the dress of my dreams (that everyone ended up loving too! My mum cried), they didn’t say a single thing, even when I asked if they liked the dress.
They couldn’t even pay me a compliment (and the dresses were nice, nothing outlandish or alternative, very normal, nice wedding dresses). The only time my maid of honour spoke was to exclaim that she heavily disliked a dress I was wearing as it was off the shoulder (a style she hates).
That was it. I was quite embarrassed that my 2 closest friends were so negative the whole night, in front of my family.
I felt heavily embarrassed and just really upset. My sister and SIL mentioned their behaviour, and my SIL messaged my fiancée to tell him how sad she felt for me to have such negative friends, which prompted him to ask me what happened, as I had just brushed it off and didn’t want to make a big deal of it.
However after speaking to him, he was quite upset on my behalf and said that if I felt comfortable, I should bring it up and ask them why they behaved that way. I did, very politely, ask them why neither of them paid me a compliment in any wedding dress I tried on, or just gave me feedback, which wasn’t received well at all.
They didn’t think they had done anything wrong and had behaved perfectly fine the whole night, going as far as go say they quite enjoyed themselves. Am I the asshole for still being upset about this and calling them out on it?
EDIT/UPDATE: sorry for the wall of text and not separating into paragraphs – I have never posted on here before. I just wanted to say a huge thank you to everyone that took the time to comment and offer perspective.
I very much understand that this may seem quite trivial and since it’s a wedding thing, no one really cares as much about this as me and my fiancé (got the spelling right haha). For some added info, this situation was really just the breaking point for me.
I was told after the fact as well that my bridesmaid was also picking dresses for herself the entire time, and was rude to my MIL. And for everyone speculating/asking – no, this is NOT the first time that they’ve behaved like this.
This was honestly very tame compared to some of the bullshit I have had to deal with from both of them. They can be very nasty and negative people, and have both been mean to me before to the point of making me cry / go low contact for a while.
And again, I didn’t message them and ‘call them out’ on any of this until I was approached by everyone at the appointment about it afterwards, as it was noticed by everyone. And no, I didn’t make them come to this appointment- they all asked to be there, so I booked a private appointment to accommodate the amount of guests I had.
I will be very much taking some time to think about these 2 friendships. And thankyou again to everyone who commented.
I never call out bad behaviour or speak up about how I feel with friends as I often tell myself I’m being over dramatic / stupid (and I understand if you think I’m still being that way here!).
Thanks everyone ❤️