Dear readers, gather ’round, for I have a tale that reeks more of drama than a pile of unwashed socks after a marathon. A real Reddit story, fresh out of the spin cycle, featuring a 19-year-old protagonist, her beleaguered parents, and the battleground known as the family laundry room. It’s a tale of boundaries, independence, and, you guessed it, laundry. So much laundry.
Our story unfolds with a family at odds over the simple task of washing clothes. The daughter, fresh from the university’s hallowed halls, returns to the family nest with a newfound desire for boundaries, specifically around her clothes. She lays down the law: “Thou shall not touch my garments.” A reasonable request, if it did not transform the laundry schedule into a logistical nightmare for her family of five.
The parents, our bewildered heroes, are faced with a dilemma. They respect their daughter’s request, yet their attempts to accommodate her lead to friction and tears—yes, dear readers, tears over laundry. They propose solutions, they negotiate, but the washing machine remains a contested territory.
Now, the plot thickens with an unforeseen twist—Reddit! The parents, seeking wisdom in the age of the internet, turn to the masses for advice. They lay bare their saga, hoping for a verdict. And oh, what a verdict they receive! The Reddit council speaks, and the tide turns. Our young protagonist is branded unreasonable, and the parents are urged to reclaim their domain.
The parents, emboldened by the voice of the many, place a ban on their daughter’s laundry privileges and even contemplate securing the washroom with a lock. Can you imagine? A laundry embargo within one’s own home!
But fear not, for this story does not end in suds and sorrow. A resolution appears on the horizon. The daughter, perhaps weary from the weight of her laundry bags or the collective scolding of Redditors, approaches her parents with an olive branch. A truce is forged over the washing machine, a day is designated for her laundry sovereignty, and peace is restored.
**Roger’s Hot Take**: Now, as your connoisseur of chaos and aficionado of the absurd, I must say: this tale spins more than just clothes. It whirls around the delicate dance of growing up, setting boundaries, and the inevitable clash when those boundaries meet family life. The real kicker? The family’s saga, dripping with laundry detergent and life lessons, is not just about whose turn it is to use the washing machine. It’s about navigating the complexities of love, respect, and living together.
So, my dear readers, let us take a moment to marvel at this spin cycle of life. We’ve witnessed a family tangled in the sheets of conflict, only to emerge cleaner and closer on the other side. And if that’s not a heartwarming conclusion to The Laundry Chronicles, I don’t know what is.
Until our next hot take, this is Roger, signing off. May your boundaries be respected, your clothes clean, and your family dramas wash away with the rinse cycle.
Original story
My wife (39f) and I (36f) have a daughter (technically my stepdaughter but I’ve raised her since she was 5) (19f) from a previous relationship of my wife’s (her father is not in the picture) who has come back home after her first year at uni. She’s picked up a new (and problematic) issue since she was last home for an extended period of time, surrounding laundry.
Basically, she has established a “boundary” where nobody is to touch her clothes. Her reasoning is that she’s concerned something will go missing/get damaged, thinks it’s just gross for us to go through her stuff, and is an adult who deserves privacy. All fine, we have 3 young children in our home (9f, 9f and 2m) so plenty of washing to keep us entertained.
The issue is that she has a habit of monopolising washing facilities to the extent where we’re effectively prevented from being able to get any other laundry done. For example, last weekend she put a wash in before work and hung it out on the line at around 11am. She then left for work (12pm-10pm) – her wash was dry within an hour, and obviously she wasn’t going to be back all day. We had a few days worth of washing to get through, so my wife (her mum) took everything off the line and folded it. We got through 5 other loads that day.
She was NOT happy when she got home, and said that she’d been very clear that we weren’t to touch her things. When we explained the situation above, she said it was “first come, first served” (not something we’ve ever said) and that since the next day was due to be nice also, we should’ve just waited to get through it the next day. That really pissed us off.
We’ve offered her a weekly laundry day, where we’ll avoid using the machines so she can have freedom to do as she pleases on that day, but she said once a week won’t cut it. Fair enough, but there are 5 other people in the house that need clean clothes/bedding/towels. Other than that all we can really suggest is that she keeps on top of her washing. If she’s at home we’ll ask her to clear her clothes from the machine/dryer/washing line as needed, but like any 19 year old she has a social life/work commitments and is often busy.
She’s upset because she says we’re not respecting her boundaries, whereas we’ve pointed out that while “don’t move my clothes” is objectively reasonable, it’s not fair for her to do so at the inconvenience of everyone else in our home. Essentially the last conversation we had ended up with her in tears because we said as long as situations like Saturday keep occurring, we’ll continue to move her stuff. Just FYI, we do fold her clothes carefully, and leave them in a basket in a communal living area so they’re kept together, in good condition, and we’re not going in and out of her room.
We normally have a good relationship with her, so this is all a bit unusual. We’ve asked her if everything else is okay, and she says yes and seems otherwise normal in and of herself, and she’s normally reasonable so – are we being unreasonable?
EDIT: So the consensus is pretty much that we’re right, and our daughter is being massively unreasonable, and that we’re being pushovers for not being tougher on her from the off. We‘ve shown her the comments, and unfortunately she’s still insisting that we’re the unreasonable ones.
We’d never considered the local laundromat, and have banned her from using our washing machine for the next fortnight given she’s still unwilling to adjust. She‘a absolutely FURIOUS, and wife has ordered a lock for the washroom door to enforce the 2 week rule. Hopefully a couple of weeks hauling her stuff to and from will help her see the light. Thanks very much all!!
EDIT 2: A slightly calmer update this morning. Our daughter came to talk to us, and apologised for the situation. She said she had found the transition back home hard (I get that) and had maybe become a bit territorial over her stuff while at uni. All okay. She then asked if she could please have a laundry day, and be allowed to use the machine. Her place of work is closed Mondays, so that’s now “her” day, and we’ve said that she can use the machine on other days – but if by 7am Tuesday there’s anything in the way (or any issues on any other days!) we’ll be moving her stuff. A genuine sorry goes a long way with us, and while the advice has been to hold firm, we don’t really want an issue if the situation can be resolved calmly. We’ve also made it clear that if her things DO have to be moved on any day (other than Monday which is totally hers) and we get ANY grief about it, we’ll go back to a 2 week ban and there’s no going back.
Maybe a less satisfying update than the last one, but we’re happy we can resolve the problem calmly. She did mention she’d read through some of these comments last night, so thank you to everyone that weighed in.