Oh, dear readers, gather ’round as I regale you with a tale as old as time, or at least as old as the concept of shared finances in a relationship. It’s a story so juicy, so riddled with fiscal faux pas, that I had to pop some popcorn before diving in. Yes, this is a story ripped straight from the Reddit archives, chronicling the woes of a soul grappling with their partner’s mysteriously empty wallet. Buckle up, buttercups; this one’s a doozy.
Enter our protagonist, a hardworking individual who recently noticed their girlfriend’s peculiar habit of suggesting lavish outings only to suddenly discover she’s as broke as the liberty bell. The plot thickens with each planned escapade, ranging from nice dinners to weekend getaways, each time our leading lady miraculously realizes her bank account resembles a dry well just when the bill looms large. The girlfriend’s timing, my friends, is as impeccable as it is suspicious.
Our storyteller, bless their heart, initially didn’t mind footing the bill. A gentleman, a scholar, perhaps both, but soon the plot repeats itself with alarming frequency. The red flags are waving, and not just gently in the breeze; these flags are in a hurricane. We’re talking about new clothes, furniture shopping sprees, and whispers of upcoming treats, all while the dinner reservations loom large and unpaid.
Our hero, faced with the Herculean task of confronting the pink elephant in the room, does what any rational being would do — they call it out. Alas, instead of a moment of financial clarity, they’re met with indignation, accusations of wrongdoing, and the ultimate ultimatum: ‘Pay up or we’re through.’ Not exactly the romantic evening one dreams of.
But here’s where it gets tasty, folks. Our protagonist, armed with nothing but logic and a growing frustration, decides enough is enough. They refuse to be the sole financier of their shared experiences, pointing out a pattern of convenient financial amnesia. And what’s the response? Outrage, denial, and a dash of guilt-tripping. It’s a recipe for disaster, or at the very least, a serious conversation about budgeting.
Are they the antagonist for refusing to open their wallet yet again? Or are they simply a weary traveler on the road to fiscal responsibility, seeking a partner who remembers their purse?
Now, dear readers, it’s time for Roger’s Hot Take, and let me tell you, it’s simmering with sass and seasoned with wisdom. If your love life is starting to feel like an unaired episode of ‘Extreme Cheapskates,’ it might be time to reconsider the casting. Relationships are about partnership, not sponsorship.
Financial responsibility is sexy, folks. Independent adults should aim to treat their partners, not bleed them dry under the guise of forgetfulness. If your significant other only remembers your generosity when the bill arrives, it might be time for a serious chat about expectations, or better yet, a reconsideration of the relationship dynamics.
In a world where love is free, but dinner definitely isn’t, finding a balance is key. Let’s not confuse romance with finance; after all, the quickest way to sour love is to keep score. But, my lovelies, if you find yourself perpetually footing the bill for an amnesia-afflicted partner, it might be time to close the wallet and open your eyes. After all, a partnership is about give and take, not take and forget.
And that, dear readers, is Roger’s hot take. Until next time, keep your hearts open and your wallets wisely guarded.
Original story
I live with my partner and one thing I’ve started noticing is she will regularly suggest days out or dates or trips away etc and then if we plan it out, she’ll complain about actually being short of money so she doesn’t think she can afford to go. She’ll expect me to offer to pay for most things while we go away.
A couple of times doesn’t bother me but it’s starting to become more frequent.
An example is that this week we had a nice restautant booked to go to thne my gf decides to but some new clothes and furniture. Once she bought that she then said she can’t afford the meal so I’d either have to pay or we’d have to cancel.
Anexample of this is next month I am getting a pay rise at work so I decided to take a month to treat myself instead of saving any money. I planned to take my gf out for a nice meal and we are going on a double date with my friend and his girlfriend in a nearby city.
I have paid the hotel and travel costs and told my gf I’ll be getting our meal when we’re there so all she’ll need is money for drinks. She said this was fine.
Now she’s saying she thinks I’ll need to pay for the full night since she’s seeing friends next month and has other things to pay for. I told her no and her response was just that we’ll have to cancel the night then.
She’s also started mentioning the amount of money I’m planning to spend next month and keeps asking if I’m going to get her a treat or a present etc. I point out that I am taking her for a meal and a night away and she just changes the subject.
Another example is that this week we had a nice restaurant booked to go to then my gf decides to buy some new clothes and furniture. Once she bought that she then said she can’t afford the meal so I’d either have to pay or we’d have to cancel.
She got angry and told me I was having a go at her for nothing and that i was wrong with what I was accusing her of. She said it’s just a coincidence and that I’m out of order for accusing her.
AITAH for refusing to pay for the full night and for pointing out a pattern?