MIL Trying to Steal the Spotlight at Your Wedding? Roger Has Words!
Ah, weddings. The time where dreams come true, and apparently, future mother-in-laws go absolutely bonkers. Today’s chuckle-worthy, face-palm-inducing story comes straight from Reddit, courtesy of one bride-to-be who goes toe-to-toe with her fiancé’s over-the-top mom.
The Tinderbox of Drama
Picture this: Our lovely bride is set to wed in September 2026. But from the moment this couple got engaged, Momzilla has been sharpening her talons. This lady is the self-proclaimed ‘main character’—because of course she is—and she’s been on about having a choreographed mother/son dance at the wedding. Oh, but honey, she doesn’t stop there. Mama Drama has even ‘joked’ about wearing white. I kid you not.
Okay, stop right there. Wearing white to a wedding when you’re not the bride? The audacity! But wait, there’s more.
This woman is not just generous with her money—thank you, rich MIL gods—but she’s also lavishly generous with her unsolicited opinions. Tackling everything from the color scheme to the engagement ring, she’s like a wrecking ball of unsolicited wedding planning tips. Our bride finally decided to take the high road, politely declining MIL’s financial aid. Smart move, girl. Because who needs a puppeteer pulling the strings on your Big Day, right?
The Dance-Off: Not the Fun Kind
Now, let’s dig into this mother/son dance horror show. Imagine losing your dad when you’re just five years old, and then being raised by a grandad who also passes away a few years back. Our bride, understandably, doesn’t want a father/daughter dance because it would just be too painful. Her mom agrees, and they decide to skip the dance altogether. Sensible.
But MIL? Oh no, darling, she’s on a mission. She declares she’ll yank everyone off the dancefloor for this spotlight-stealing charade. Because why let a little thing like the bride’s feelings get in the way of her one-woman show, right?
After MIL’s little revolt, our bride has to deliver some hard truths: Try it, and you’ll be escorted out faster than you can say ‘choreographed catastrophe.’ Boom. Mic drop.
Backing from the Groom
But wait, does the groom feel like he’s caught in a battlefield? Let’s talk about him. Our galillion-dollar question: What does he think about all this?
Turns out, he’s on the same page as our bride. The dude doesn’t even want a first dance, let alone a choreographed spectacle involving his stage-mom. The thought of waltzing around makes him break out in hives. The couple agreed they’d do a quick 1-minute shuffle and be done with it, allowing the bridal party to join in and save them from the terror of dancing sober.
Oh, and he initially wanted a destination wedding with a cozy guest list, but surprise, surprise, MIL had a bloody guest list of 60 people she couldn’t live without. Small, intimate wedding? Out the window. Ouch.
Roger’s Take
Alright, time for a dose of Roger and some tough love. Far be it from me to side with anyone stealing focus on someone else’s big day. Mother-in-law dearest, you’ve got to chill. This isn’t your second coming-out ball, it’s your son’s wedding! You’re supposed to be supportive, not the third act.
To our embattled bride, I say: You’re not just NTA (Not the A**hole); you’re a goddess forged in the fires of in-law drama. Stand your ground, set your boundaries, and let the wedding you want unfold beautifully. Remember, you and your fiancé are the stars of this show, and nobody should call
Original story
My fiancé and I are due to get married in September 2026, from the moment we got engaged his mother has insisted that she will be having a choreographed dance with him at our wedding. His mum is a self proclaimed “main character” and has even “joked” that she should be allowed to wear white as she is mother of the groom.
His mum is very kind money wise to her children and has paid large sums of his siblings weddings and would not make a difference here with ours. However I don’t want this to be an issue that the day is then planned significantly around her ideas of the perfect wedding and not ours as there has been previous comments about how she doesn’t like the colour scheme and how she thinks my engagement ring is tacky (I have a 1.
5ct emerald cut Montana sapphire with a diamond paved setting). So I have therefore said thank you for her kindness but that we will be funding the main chunk of the wedding ourselves as we have saved for it.
In relation to the dance my dad died when I was 5 years old and my grandad who raised me passed away a few years back. My mum and I have discussed a dance (for both of us not him and his mother) and both agreed that it would just seem a bit awkward and we wouldn’t really enjoy it so we were going to skip the father/daughter (SHE WOULD BE DANCING WITH ME IN THIS CASE) dance.
I have stated my concerns about a mother/son dance as it would highlight more the fact that there is no traditional father/daughter dance and that I just don’t feel comfortable with it. His mother has blown up saying I will be ruining the day for the whole family by not allowing it and has stated that she will be pulling everyone off the dancefloor for this dance regardless.
I have therefore now told her if that is the case she will be escorted from the venue before the dance begins.
EDIT**
Sorry first time using this so didn’t think to give details on fiancé (yes I’m definitely the AH for leaving his opinion out of this post)
He doesn’t want a first dance never mind a choreographed dance. He laughed the first time it was mentioned about the mother/son dance and said not a chance but she was insisting on it.
He has agreed on a very short 1 minute first dance where the bridal party will join in after a slight sway to our favourite song as dancing in general makes him uncomfortable. I had always stated before the engagement that I didn’t like the dances and he had stated that he’d only agree to a very short 1st dance after a number of drinks because he hates them.
We’ve always been on the same page for that.
I will also add that my Fiancé wanted a destination wedding with a small number of guest, which I was quite happy to do as it would be very personal to us. This was completely taken off the table as his mum had a list of 60 guest of her own that absolutely had to attended as they were extended family.