Grandparents Gone Wild: The SSN Showdown

Darlings, gather ’round, because have I got a juicy story for *you* from the depths of Reddit, featuring a tale as old as time but with a modern twist. It’s a real-life saga that I stumbled upon, and let me tell you, it’s ripe with drama, questionable intentions, and a hefty serving of family feud. This is straight from a real person, so grab your popcorn, because you’re about to dive into Rogers’ Hot Take on whether one couple was in the wrong for not handing over their daughter’s social security number to the grandparents. Spoiler Alert: It’s spicy. 🌶️

Our story begins with a young couple, fresh into the world of parenting, navigating the stormy seas of colicky babies and the elusive quest for a shower in peace. Enter the grandparents, stage left—or rather, don’t, because they seem to have taken a permanent intermission from their roles in their granddaughter’s life. Despite living a mere 15 minutes away, they might as well be on another planet for all the interest they’ve shown. Our protagonist, let’s call her *Mama Bear*, has tried everything, from begging for a mere visit to offering to foot the bill at a restaurant, all in the vain hope of fostering some semblance of a relationship between her offspring and the elusive grandparents.

Fast forward to the plot twist nobody saw coming: out of the blue, the grandparents suddenly express interest. Not in wiping away tears, changing diapers, or even basking in the glow of their grandchild’s presence. No, they want her social security number—to open a college savings account, so they say. Suspicious? Our Mama Bear certainly thinks so, especially given the step-grandpa’s questionable pastime of gambling and lack of employment.

In a move that could only be described as daring yet sensible, Mama Bear and Papa Bear stand their ground, refusing to hand over the golden number. The response? A temper tantrum fit for a toddler, with our dear step-grandpa blocking them on the digital playground of Facebook. Oh, the horror!

Now, let’s take a moment. Put yourself in their shoes—would you hand over such sensitive information, especially under these prickly conditions? I thought not. And yet, the quandary arises: does this refusal make them the villains of this piece? Should they have acquiesced for the sake of familial peace or perhaps a future college fund?

*Drumroll, please*, for Roger’s Hot Take: Not just no, but *heck no*. In this day and age, where identity theft is as common as bad remakes of classic movies, guarding your child’s SSN is akin to protecting the crown jewels. And when those asking have shown the reliability of a chocolate teapot? Double down on that ‘no’. It’s not about withholding joy or being spiteful; it’s about safeguarding a future that’s yet to be written. There are myriad ways to save for college without needing direct access to someone’s social security number.

For the grandparents, this could have been a golden opportunity to mend bridges and show true interest in their grandchild’s life, beyond a mere financial gesture. For the parents, it’s a stark reminder that sometimes, the hardest decisions are the most necessary.

And to our step-grandpa, recently crowned King of the Facebook Block: perhaps it’s time to reassess priorities. After all, true connections are built on trust and love, not social security numbers and potential credit scores.

So there you have it, dear readers, another day, another familial fiasco navigated with panache. Remember, when it comes to the crunch, protecting your little bear cubs comes above all else—even if it means facing the wrath of absent grandparents. Until next time, stay sassy, stay savvy, and stay tuned for more Hot Takes from your favorite, Roger. 💫

Original story

Aita for not giving my daughters social to her grandparents?? So alittle back story my husband(26) and I(f25) have certain rules when it comes to our daughter. Like people have to respect both parents to see our child or people have to attempt to be involved. I had my daughter in September 2023. Ever sense her “grandparents” from my husbands side has been MIA. We live 15 min from them lol. My baby had severe colic and stomach issues and they had an excuse everytime I asked for help or asked if they could come over so I could shower to watch her. I begged and begged. I also asked to come over to their house so they could see their grand baby and it was a no, and i also volunteered to meet them at a restaurant and pay for my own if they could see their grandkid and it was a no. So as of January 12th 2024 I made a rule where I’m not gonna beg people to see my child so they haven’t seen my child at all. They are lousy.

Anyway, yesterday my husband received a text from his mom asking for my daughter’s social security number because they wanna open a college savings for her. But my husband and I don’t feel comfortable giving that information out, mostly my husbands step dad who has no job and gambling problem. The first thing that went through my mind was “he’s gonna get a credit in her name”. Anyway so we told them sorry no. And that made them angry and now one of the grandparents aka my husbands step dad. Blocked us on Facebook and blocked my mom on Facebook. So aita for saying no? Or should I have let them.