Bridesmaid Blues or Bridal Boot? The Wedding Drama Showdown

Hello, darling readers! Today, we dive into a real-life story fresh out of the Reddit oven, so grab your popcorn and strap in for a wild ride down the aisle. This tale features a bridal showdown that has the internet picking sides faster than you can say, ‘I do.’ It’s a story of fashion, defiance, and one bride’s quest for the perfect winter-themed wedding. Oh, the drama, the intrigue! This, my lovelies, is wedding planning on steroids, and you’re in the front row with your very own gossip guru, Roger. So, let’s dissect, shall we?

Imagine, if you will, a beautifully planned winter wedding: a color palette of forest green and gold, snow gently falling outside, and a bride who has every detail down to the accessories figured out. Enter our protagonist, the bride, a 23-year-old vision of determination and winter wonderland dreams. But alas, every story needs its antagonist, cue Kat, the bridesmaid with a fashion agenda of her own.

From the get-go, it seems Kat was not on board with our bride’s vision. Forest green? How utterly ghastly, she thought. But dear readers, it wasn’t merely a suggestion to wear a different color; oh no, Kat decided rebellion was the way to go. Fast forward to the Big Day, and Kat turns up fashionably late and scandalously off-theme in BLACK. Shock, horror, gasps all round!

Now, before you all start chanting ‘bridezilla,’ let’s not forget our bride paid for the bridesmaid dresses, making this not just a fashion faux pas but a slap in the face of bridal generosity. Our bride, faced with a vision of black in her perfectly green scene, did what any self-respecting protagonist would do: she gave Kat the boot. Security! Yes, drama ensued. Yes, there were screams, tears, and the obligatory ‘you-can’t-make-me’ tantrums.

The aftermath? A wedding that went off without a hitch (minus one rogue bridesmaid) and a fallout that’s spilled over into the messy world of post-wedding politics. Kat, still reeling from her forced exit, became the ghost of bridesmaids past, haunting our bride with texts, and demands for reimbursement. Petty? Absolutely. Entertaining? Undoubtedly.

So, dear readers, where does your loyal Roger stand in this bridal battle royale? Here’s Roger’s Hot Take: A wedding is a day of love, celebration, and unity, but it’s also a day where the bride and groom’s vision comes to life. When you agree to be part of the bridal party, you sign up to support that vision, not hijack it with your wardrobe woes.

Was the bride harsh? Perhaps. But weddings are not democracy, and last time I checked, ‘bridesmaid-zilla’ wasn’t a term. Kat’s actions were the equivalent of bringing a toaster to a potluck dinner – not just inappropriate but wildly off-mark. And demanding money back for the black dress she bought in defiance? That, dear Kat, is the icing on this wedding cake catastrophe.

So, let this be a lesson to bridesmaids everywhere: Wear the dress, smile for the camera, and save your fashion coups for your own big day. And to brides, while it’s your day, remember that compassion and compromise can sometimes save more than just the day – they can save friendships.

Until next time, keep your heels, head, and standards high, and your tolerance for wedding drama even higher. Roger out!

Original story

My (23F) wedding was back on Saturday December 31st and I’m still getting backlash from this, so I want to know if this was an AH move.

In the country I live in it’s currently winter, and we get a fair amount of snow so my wedding was a winter themed wedding. The color theme was forest green and gold. My dress was obviously white, and I chose the color of my bridesmaids dresses to be forest green as well. My MOH”s dress was black, and everyone was to wear gold accessories.

I have this friend, we’ll call her Kat, that I asked to be one of my bridesmaids. When we went dress shopping and I told them the color theme I was going for, Kat immediately expressed that she thought forest green was a bad choice.

She said the thinks it’s not a flattering color, and thought I should choose something different and more “girly”. I said no because my wedding was winter themed and I thought the color would go perfect with the theme. She suggested a pink, blue even a red. I said no, but thanks’ for your opinion. She found out my MOH”s dress was black and asked if she could wear black too? I said no, only my MOH is wearing black.

I paid for all the dresses.

Fast forward to wedding day, everyone’s getting their hair and makeup done and Kat show’s up 30 minutes late holding a bag that looked like it had a dress inside. I asked her what this was for? She told me it was for later on at the reception if she got uncomfortable and wanted to change after pictures. I was like ok cool.

So fast forward we’re all dressed and walking down the stairs because the ceremony is beginning in 30 mins and we were going to take some pictures before. Kat is the last person to come down and she’s wearing a BLACK DRESS. At the time I was preoccupied taking pictures with my parents, but my MOH came over to me and made me aware of the situation.

I confronted Kat and asked her what was going on. She said she hates her bridesmaid dress, as the color is ugly and makes her look gross so she’s wearing black. I told her please go back and change. She refused and started walking away from me. I said I’m going to ask her one more time, and if she doesn’t oblige I’m calling security and kicking her out. She began yelling at me to fuck off, so I called security and asked them to please escort her out. She started making a BIG scene yelling how I’m such a bitch, that I can’t force her to wear anything and that I’m a horrible inconsiderate friend.

The wedding went on and it was truly amazing.

Ever since the wedding Kat has been blowing up my phone with texts saying some really nasty thing’s and asking for the money back she spent on the black dress, since it was a waste and she didn’t get to wear it. I had to block her number. Some of my other bridesmaids have been giving me shit saying that it was a little harsh kicking her out and embarrassing her like that. And that maybe I should give her the money back. AITA for kicking her out?