Hello, my dear scandal-loving connoisseurs, it’s Roger here, bringing you another juicy slice from the outrageous wedding cake of life. Today, we’ve got a tale so deliciously dramatic, it could only come from the deep, dark depths of Reddit. Yes, yours truly has stumbled upon a real story from a real person that’s got me asking: “Are we too sensitive or just too sweet-toothed?” So, buckle up, buttercream lovers; we’re going in fork-first.
Our story unfolds with a young lady, let’s call her Ms. Curious Cakester, eagerly participating in the joyous wedding planning of her best friends, Em and Roe. Now, Ms. Cakester, being the engaged and devoted friend that she is, finds herself in a sticky situation – quite literally – over a question as innocent as a vanilla sponge: What flavor is the wedding cake? You’d think she’d asked for the crown jewels by the reaction she received!
It seems our girl has an infamous aversion to chocolate. Not a mere dislike, my friends, but the sort of disdain that novels could be written about. So, when she innocently inquired about the flavor of the matrimonial dessert on their all-things-wedding Discord channel, she might as well have lit the fuse to the drama bomb. The response from Em? A tart, “if you have a problem with it, you can shove it,” faster than you can say, ‘frosting fiasco.’
Now, as a connoisseur of all things debatably classy and unashamedly sassy, I couldn’t help but wonder, could this be the ultimate wedding faux pas or just a bridezilla on the edge of a chocolate cliff? Ms. Cakester’s attempts at smoothing things over were met with the kind of chilly reception usually reserved for those who confess to disliking grandma’s cooking. Roe, the groom, wasn’t much help either, ensnared as he was by the matrimonial gag order.
This leaves our friend contemplating a wedding withdrawal, both from the party and the palooza, puzzling over the complexity of wedding etiquette and the apparent taboo of dessert discourse.
**Roger’s Hot Take:** Sweet minions of the blogosphere, it’s clear we’re not just talking about cake here. We’re slicing into the layered beast that is wedding stress, friendship dynamics, and the long-overdue need for a bakery-based peace treaty. To Ms. Curious Cakester, you’re not the a-hole for craving clarity on the confectionery front. To Em and Roe, weddings are tough, but friends are the fondant that keep the cake together – don’t let a question of taste lead to bitter feelings. And to you, my delectable readers, remember: a cake can be changed, but a friendship? That takes the cake.
In the grand banquet of life, may your questions always be met with sweetness, and your dramas with a dash of humor. Until next time, keep your forks ready and your wit razor-sharp. Roger, out.
Original story
I (22f) am in the wedding party of my friends we will call Em(25f) and Roe(25m) who will be getting married in about 2 months. I have been really excited for the wedding since it’ll be an opportunity for all the friends from college to get together for the first time in 2 years. Not to mention Em and Roe are my best friends, or at least I thought they were.
We have a discord for all the wedding stuff and they have a channel about food. They’ve been really good about being open about the food they intend to have at the reception including vegan/vegitarian/gluten free options for everyone and answering questions so I didn’t think there would be any contention if I asked a question.
Anyway, about 4 days ago I posted a message into the discord asking “Hey, what flavor is the cake gonna be? I wanna mentally prepare myself lol.” I think looking back my choice of extra words is what caused all this, but I meant it in the sense that I have a long documented dislike of chocolate flavored foods like cake or ice cream. So I added it in the event the cake was chocolate.
I recieved a private message back that the cake would be chocolate and that if I had a problem with it then I could “shove it” cause it was their wedding not mine. And i felt really taken aback by this response.
Never did I mention that I would have been upset and I certainly wouldn’t have put up a stink about it. Its exactly like Em had said, it’s their wedding. I explained as much and tried to apologize for any offending I did but she got even more defensive and started basically blasting me for implying that she was offended and I was just left overall very confused.
I gave it two days before I tried to apologize again and smooth it over figuring she may have just been having a bad day but I got shut down again telling me she didn’t need my apology cause nothing was wrong and I needed time stop trying to make it seem like shit was wrong between us and to just drop it.
I texted Roe to see if I could gauge what was going on since he and I have always had an open dialogue about things like this but he basically just told me he couldn’t talk to me right now and I have to imagine its cause Em told him not to.
Its been 2 days since then and I’m just really confused. This whole thing has made me want to drop out of the wedding party and honestly not go at all. I wish Roe would talk to me and Em would be honest. I can’t help but think maybe I just don’t get how stressful planning a wedding is and like maybe theyve gotten pushback from other people on other things and somehow its being taken out on me? Or is it really a big no no to ask stuff like this? I don’t know? This is the first wedding i’ll have ever gone to, so am I the asshole?