A Mother’s Dilemma: When Your Daughter’s Wedding Weekend Turns Into a Melodrama
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From Barbecue Dreams to Cold-Cut Nightmares
It all started with a vision—a fairy tale wedding weekend with festivities kicking off on Thursday. Activities were planned, enthusiasm was high, and of course, Pinterest boards were overwhelmed. Anastasia, our anxious bride-to-be, had everything laid out more meticulously than a military operation. But what follows should be filed under
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My daughter, Anastasia, got married a week ago. In the months leading up to the event, she was understandably anxious, which her father and I tried to help her through as much as possible.
Originally, Anastasia planned on having a wedding weekend. She married on a Sunday but wanted everyone there that Thursday to kick off the weekend with a few activities.
Most guests were coming from across the country. First, she changed the welcome barbecue to basically just cold cuts and chips, even when her dad and I offered to buy the stuff she originally promised.
But she said no. Then she cancelled all the activities and said she was too stressed to do any of them.
She said it was nothing the family did, just her stress. While I understood her side, I did also understand the side of her guests who were upset they spent all this money to come early, have accommodations for a full weekend and now, they had very little to do.
Then, a few members of the bridal party who had flown in out of state with plus ones stated they felt bad for their partners for basically abandoning them. They ended up skipping a few events because Anastasia had told them to treat Thursday and Friday as a vacation then took that back and expected them to ignore their partners.
Anastasia was pissed and began venting to me. I tried to be understanding at first.
Eventually, she only had myself, her maid of honor and one bridesmaid attending a movie night she arranged. The bridesmaid ended up leaving early because she felt bad her partner had basically been cooped up in their hotel alone (there really isn’t a ton to do around here).
She and the other bridesmaids promised they’d be there for the sleepover they had always planned for the night before the wedding so everyone could get ready together morning of.
After this, Anastasia threw a fit, saying she felt abandoned by most of her bridal party. Her maid of honor was reassuring her that she did the right thing and they were being assholes.
They both looked to me and my husband for support. Eventually, I said I understood her bridesmaids.
I also understood why our family was upset. While it’s understandable she’s stressed and why she didn’t want to do the originally planned events, she did cause a lot of people to waste money and time coming down here.
As well as put her bridal party in an awkward position.
Anastasia refused to discuss it more. The rest of the weekend went on as she wanted.
The wedding was beautiful and everyone had a good time. Then Anastasia and her husband went on a short honeymoon.
They returned on Friday and we had dinner on Saturday. At one point, Anastasia confronted me privately and said I was wrong for not supporting her.
She said I was supposed to be on her side. I said I would’ve been but she was teetering on bridezilla territory.
Just because it’s her special day doesn’t mean how she handled things was okay.
She insists that I was in the wrong for not backing her up. AITA?