Gather around the digital campfire, folks! Roger’s here to serve you a scorching hot cup of coffee with a generous splash of drama. Today’s story comes straight from the moral battleground that is Reddit’s AITA (Am I The Asshole) subreddit. Fasten your seatbelts; this ride promises unexpected dips, wild turns, and cheeky commentary from yours truly.
The Setup: Coffee, Moms, and Dance Recitals
Picture this: a laid-back Saturday coffee session featuring our protagonist, the aunt (let’s call her Aunty Chic), her sister-in-law (SIL), and a trio of moms from her niece’s dance class. Why are they hanging out? Because in the wonderful world of dance moms, friendships blossom amidst pirouettes and prances. Aunty Chic doesn’t have kids herself, but she’s more than invested in her niece’s dance journey, taking her to classes and performances. The mom squad includes Laura, Olivia, and Nella.
The Reddit Story That Struck a Nerve
While chatting over cappuccinos, Olivia brings up a juicy Reddit tale about a widow who refuses to let her deceased husband’s sister see her kids because she doesn’t show the same love to the widow’s children from her recent remarriage. Intriguing, right? Olivia, sensing the tension building like a DJ dropping the bass, turns to Aunty Chic for her opinion.
Hold Up, Let’s Talk Niblings!
Before divulging her thoughts, Aunty Chic clarifies she’s not a mom and therefore can’t completely empathize with the widow. She then passionately sides with the ostracized aunt because, in her world, *niblings* (a delightful term for nieces and nephews) are her brother’s kids. Period.
The Hypothetical Divorce Bomb
In true plot-twist fashion, Aunty Chic sets up a hypothetical: “What if my brother and SIL get divorced, or my brother dies?” Gasp! SIL’s face turned so white she could have passed for a kabuki actor. To prevent confusion, Aunty Chic clarifies she’s just creating a scenario, not manifesting some grim reality.
Despite the tense air thick enough to slice through, Nella, the jokester of the group, eases the tension by chuckling and reminding everyone it’s just an example. Ah, good ol’ Nella, keeping things light.
The Cold, Hard Truth
Aunty Chic doesn’t shy away from delivering her honest take: If SIL remarries and has more kids, those offspring won’t be her responsibility, love-wise or financially. Fast forward to SIL’s counter-question: What if her brother has kids with another woman? Aunty Chic swiftly answers that those children would still be her niblings. Touché.
But here’s where the shade gets thrown: SIL’s own sisters are apparently about as involved in her kids’ lives as the moon is in Earth’s daily activities. Yeah, I went there.
The Mom Squad Chimes In
Interestingly, Olivia supports Aunty Chic’s position by sharing that her sister barely knows her step-kids and certainly doesn’t consider them family. This isn’t an isolated sentiment, folks. Everyone’s on board the Aunty Chic train except, you guessed it, SIL, who spent the next hour sulking harder than a teenager whose phone got taken away.
Roger’s Sassy and Witty Verdict
Oh darling, you know I’ve saved the best for last! Let’s break it down:
At the end of the day, Auntie Chic’s responsibility is towards her *actual* niblings, not some hypothetical future add-ons. Family guidelines aren’t universal; they’re more like rubber bands that stretch and strain but can snap back into place when you least expect it.
Morals, darling readers? Set your family boundaries, speak your truth, and never forget to add a dollop of sass.
Original story
Hi.
Last weekend we were having coffee with my SIL and 3 of the my nieces classmates moms. We are all kind of “friends”.
While I don’t have kids normally is me the one that take my niece to dance classes and her performance/presentation and all the dance related things while my SIL stay at home with my nephew because he is still a baby and is kind of disruptive in these situations (the dance teacher is really strict). One of my niece classmate (actually her BBF) goes to dance classes with her and that’s how I got close with that mom (lets calls her Laura) .
And even if we are not like close friends we hang out some times and when the 4 moms reunite they includes me or invites me.
While we were having coffee one of the moms (let call her Olivia) actually mentioned a story she read on reddit about how a widow doesn’t allow her kids aunt (the dead husbands sister) to see the kids because she doesn’t treat the kids of her new marriage the same way. And she asked me as an aunt my opinion.
Well the first thing I says was please to apologize me because as I am not a mom I cant sympathize at all with the mom of the story but that I feel really sorry for that aunt because the other kids are not her family. Then I say lets put an example if my brother and SIL get a divorce or my brother die, in that moment my SIL put a face like OMG!
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(here I can also be TA) and look directly at my SIL and says: I know you tents to misunderstood words so I am NOT saying I want or wish that to happens I am just setting an example. The other mom (Nella) laugh and says something like: We know how she is don’t worries this is just an example.
Then I continue saying that in a case like that if she remarries and have more kids then they wont be my problem at all and is not my responsibility at all to take care of them or provide for them or love them. Because my niblings are my niblings because they are my brother kids not hers.
Then my SIL ask me with a strait face: If its the opposite? Well if my brother have kids with another woman they are my brother kids they will be my niblings.
So of course I will treat them like that. And I asked her: Like you mentioned if its the opposite do you expect your 3 sisters to love or provide or whatever for the kids my brother has with another woman?
If looks could k*ll I would be in funeral right now. Since my SIL sisters don’t even care for my niblings right now.
And then all the other 3 moms agree with me Olivia even says that her sister is married with a man with 2 kids and since in 5 years she had only met them like twice a year she doesn’t even consider them niblings. And we just stayed for like an extra hour.
But the rest of the time you could see my SIL was upset.
So AITA?
Edit: Grammar