When Text Messages Reveal All: The Tale of Betrayal and Self-Discovery
Gather ’round, my internet friends, for I’ve got a tale straight out of the digital age. It involves romance, betrayal, and a few too many emojis. In the grand tradition of Shakespearean drama, this story is a rollercoaster ride of heartache and discovery. Just like any good soap opera, it originated from a real Reddit post shared by one of our fellow netizens. Grab your popcorn and settle in—you’re in for one heck of a ride.
The Not-So-Perfect Marriage
Our protagonist, let’s call him ‘Mr. Almost-Divorced’, married his wife less than a year ago. They’ve had their ups and downs, which isn’t surprising given that they also have a three-year-old to keep them on their toes. Now, relationships are no walk in the park, especially when you’re sharing your life with another human being. But when an atypical element throws a curveball, things can get downright surreal.
The Weekend That Unraveled It All
Mr. Almost-Divorced’s wife—a seemingly straight woman—confessed to having kissed her friend M during a girls’ weekend. Now, a little kiss among friends might seem innocuous to some, but hold your horses, there’s more. M, our friend in need of some matrimonial guidance, was discovered later that same evening locking lips with some random dude. So naturally, M has been traversing her own matrimonial twilight zone.
Dreams Turned Nightmares
Ah, the power of the subconscious. Mr. Almost-Divorced woke up from a dream that felt too real to ignore—his wife and M doing way more than just kissing. And this wasn’t some weird fantasy; it filled him with a gut-wrenching feeling of betrayal. Dreams have a funny way of kicking you in the emotional gut, don’t they?
Going Through the Digital Looking Glass
If dreams are the door signs of our inner worlds, text messages are often the sharp, undeniable executioners. Our protagonist did the unthinkable—well, probably more common than we’d like to admit—he snooped into his wife’s phone. And let’s just say the messages were more revealing than a trashy gossip magazine headline.
The Gut-Wrenching Messages
It’s one thing to suspect; it’s another to read the raw, brutal reality. Here’s an excerpt from the digital treasure trove:
W: “Hey! So I’ve texted this 1000 times or more, but I wanted to talk about the other weekend. Am I hurt by [city event]? Umm hell yes. Yes, would I love to end up with you? Yes, but you have a lot of shit to get through and so do I. But I guess I’m saying the ball is in your court. I would love to see where this would go, I love us, I love who you are, what you stand for, and I want you to know you’re amazing.”
M: “I’ve been thinking about this a lot as well. I’m sorry that I hurt you. Are you still okay with doing girls’ weekend?”
W: “Ugh I hate that I made you feel like that but you’re so special to me and ugh, I don’t know how you feel and that night I felt like I am not real to you and that made me so sad… but I’d legit leave it all for you.”
The kicker? When she dropped the same line she once used to woo Mr. Almost-Divorced: “Someone special once told me that I should never settle.” Pretty sure that someone didn’t mean ‘never settle down’, but hey, semantics, right?
What’s a Guy to Do?
Mr. Almost-Divorced is devastated. Understandably, he’s thinking divorce might be the inevitable detour on his road of life. Yet, he’s caught in a moral and emotional quandary, trying to figure out how to keep his role in his child’s life intact while putting his own shattered pieces together. He’s in Minnesota, where winters are brutal and so, apparently, is deciphering the legal landscape regarding custody and divorce.
Roger’s Not-So-Humble Opinion
Alright, folks, brace yourselves—here’s where Roger pulls out his sassy pants and dishes some truth. First off, snooping might feel invigorating in the moment, but it’s a Pandora’s box you should probably steer clear of. Leave the detective work to Sherlock Holmes, darling. Trust, or the lack thereof, will always rear its ugly head in an untrusting partnership.
As for the wife, well, love triangles might make for good TV, but ain’t nobody got time for that drama in real life. Exploring one’s sexuality is valid and fantastic, but it should be done with honesty, transparency, and above all, respect for everyone involved—including unsuspecting husbands and tiny humans.
Mr. Almost-Divorced, I hate to break it to you, but your marriage isn’t looking too rosy. Sometimes, recognizing when to cut your losses is the most dignified form of self-respect you can muster. Get your legal ducks in a row, prioritize your little one’s well-being, and perhaps, take that ‘never settle’ advice to heart. Never settle for being someone’s second choice. You deserve to be someone’s first and only.
Original story
Hello everyone. I could use your advice on how to navigate my situation.
My (28F) wife and I (28M) got married less than a year ago. It hasn’t been perfect, but we’ve made it work, especially with our little one (3) in the picture.
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A month ago, my wife confessed to me that she kissed a girl friend of hers, M, during girls weekend. We’ve always sort of leaned into the fantasy of involving other people, but to this point, neither of us really acted on it.
Frankly, I thought my wife was straight and I didn’t think much of it..
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Later that evening, M was found making out with some other man. She’s going through a divorce of her own very recently.
This detail will matter soon.
Fast forward to this morning- I had a dream that I caught her and her “friend”, M, doing a lot more than just kissing. But it wasn’t exciting, it was just.
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weird and sad.
I woke up and I couldn’t shake the feeling of betrayal. So I did what I probably shouldn’t have done, grabbed her phone while she still slept, and found the incriminating messages right there under M’s name.
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W: “Hey! So ive texted this 1000 times or more, but i wanted to talk about the other weekend.
Am I hurt by [city event]? Umm hell yes.
Yes, would I love to end up with you? Yes, but you have a lot of shit to get through and so do I.
But I guess I’m saying the ball is in your court. I would love to see where this would go, I love us, I love who you are, what you stand for, and I want you to know you’re amazing”
M: “I’ve been thinking about this a lot as well. I’m sorry that I hurt you.
Are you still okay with doing girls’ weekend?”
W: “ugh I hate that I made you feel like that but you’re so special to me and ugh idk how you feel and that night I felt like I am not real to you and that made me so sad..
but I’d legit leave it all for you”
Holy crap that was the worst part to read. That she’d up and toss a 8 year relationship down the drain, especially with our toddler involved.
There was plenty more that was said but of course, you get the gist..
. she went so far to say the same line she said to me when we met, “someone special once told me that I should never settle”.
I’m pretty sure that he didn’t mean you should never settle DOWN!
I’m just heartbroken..
I’m 75% sure we are headed to divorce through this one simple message thread..
but I want to also protect myself so I can be in my child’s life as much as possible. I’m in Minnesota, US, if that matters.
Thank you all..
Reddit community is the best.