Oh, *honey*. Buckle up, because today we’ve stumbled upon a Reddit rollercoaster that spirals through the tumultuous terrains of love, breakups, and the ever-dreaded living-with-the-ex saga. This is a real story, folks, yanked right from the depths of the Reddit relationship forums, where one soul seeks the wisdom of the masses in their time of romantic turmoil. Let’s dive into the juicy details before I serve you Roger’s Hot Take, shall we?
Once upon a not-so-happily-ever-after, our protagonist and their girlfriend decided to call it quits. But here’s the twist: they still share a roof, responsibilities, and, most intriguingly, her two kids—who see our heartbroken hero as nothing short of Dad #2. Fast forward past the initial phase of breakup blues, and we find our lead character playing house while secretly yearning for a sign, any sign, that they’re not just a live-in nanny with benefits (or rather, with no benefits).
Now, picture this: our protagonist, navigating the treacherous waters of post-breakup cohabitation, decided to confront the elephant in the room—”Where do we stand?” Unfortunately, his significant ex responds with the dating equivalent of “It’s not you, it’s me,” leaving our friend dangling on the thread of hope that maybe, just maybe, love can be rekindled.
But here’s where the sitcom turns slightly tragic. After a knee-breaking incident, our protagonist assumes the mantle of caregiver, chauffeur, chef, and bedtime story aficionado, all without so much as a thank you or a hint of romantic reconciliation. It’s enough to make you ask, “Am I a partner or a PlayStation – useful until something newer comes along?”
Now, dear readers, let’s address the the elephant in the room: Is seeking a bit of reassurance from the person you’re bending over backward for really such a crime? Is wanting to know that you still light up someone’s life (or at least their day) so wrong?
Here comes **Roger’s Hot Take**: Sweetie, you’re not asking for too much. You’re practically auditioning for sainthood at this point. Being in a relationship (or whatever this limbo is) is a two-way street, not a charity run where you donate your time, affection, and apparently, nursing skills. Love should not be a puzzle where you’re constantly searching for missing pieces under the couch cushions.
Relationships, even those on life support, need clear communication, and honey, it seems like you’re getting about as much feedback as a broken vending machine. It’s time to stop pressing B7 in hopes of an elusive bag of chips. You deserve someone who doesn’t treat your heart like a yo-yo—fun to play with, but easy to put down when they’re bored.
In conclusion, ask not if you are the a-hole for wanting a smidge of affection or recognition. Ask why you’re settling for someone who sees your worth as optional. Remember, love shouldn’t feel like a one-player game, especially when you’re putting in all the cheat codes just to keep the game going.
To my darling protagonist, it may be time to consider that this game is over, and it’s time to find one where your co-player appreciates the multifaceted, caregiving, endlessly patient lover that you are. It’s not about finding someone who makes the game easy; it’s about finding someone who makes the game worth playing—co-op mode, side by side, through every level, no matter how challenging.
Remember, in the game of love, don’t settle for the side quest; aim to be the main storyline. And to all you players out there feeling more like NPCs in your relationships, remember: in Roger’s world, everyone deserves to be the protagonist in their love story.
Until next time, keep your hearts brave and your takes hot. Roger, out.
Original story
Little back story. My girl and I broke up march 10. We still lived together. We never fully separated. I slept in a different room for a few weeks. We also have her two children that live with us. I’m seen as their father by her. I am not biologically but in other ways. We broke up from her not being happy together. Saying she needs to heal herself and find herself. We separated to give her that space. Through living daily life and my efforts to get her back we did start to feel like things were normal again. Fast forward to yesterday. I’ve tried to talk to her about the status of us several times since the break up. She is an avoidant type of person. Pushing her to talk creates a total mess inside of her. She feels backed into a corner. I have waited almost two months to see how she feels. She hasn’t came to me in her our power. I feel like I’m expected to wait forever while still showing up for her. Most recent response I’ve gotten from her is that she hasn’t had time to think about us / me. In our life today she now broke her knee since we broke up. Now I’m fully responsible for taking care of her and her kids from 5am to 8 when the kids go to bed. I love this. But why am I treated this way for seeking reassurance and emotional safety in our life ? Am I asking too much for her to show me in important to help give me motivation to do all the things I do for her everyday.