Ladies, gents, and drama enthusiasts, gather around as I unveil a tale that redefines the phrase ‘family feud.’ Imagine, if you will, a beautiful wedding in the making, shattered not by the bride or groom, but by a war waged with Facebook posts and passive-aggressive donations. Yes, my dears, this is not a plot from a daytime soap opera but a real Reddit story from a very real (and very frustrated) person. So, make yourselves comfy, because you’re in for one wild ride in this edition of *Roger’s Hot Takes*.
Our protagonist, let’s call her ‘Bridezilla-in-Waiting’ (though through no fault of her own), and her fiancé had the most romantic plan for their big day. A lovely, budget-friendly wedding with a heartwarming contribution from the bride’s side of the family. Ah, but then enters the villain of our story: the Mother-In-Law (MIL) from a place much hotter than your average kitchen. Upon hearing about the bride’s parents’ gracious donation, our MIL, with the subtlety of a bull in a china shop, drops a comment so sour it could curdle milk, insinuating that this marriage would need a do-over.
And so, the fires of family drama were ignited, stoked by each side’s pride and Facebook’s very public stage. The battleground? A wedding that had yet to send out its first invite. The weapons? Cold, hard cash and even colder, sharper words.
Our Bridezilla-in-Waiting, in a desperate move to quell the flames, declares a cease-fire by postponing the wedding indefinitely. A move so bold, it left both sides of this warring family stunned and, surprisingly, united them in their indignation towards her. Ah, irony, thou art a heartless beast.
Now, dear readers, you might be asking yourselves—where does our sassy and witty protagonist, Roger, stand amidst this matrimonial melee? Here’s *Roger’s Hot Take*:
*Darlings, while love might be blind, it certainly doesn’t have to be dumb.* Postponing the wedding was not just a brave move; it was a brilliant stroke of genius. Why? Because, my lovelies, a wedding is not just about the ‘I Dos.’ It’s a celebration of two families coming together in support and love. And if those families would rather throw shade than throw rice, well, why rush to the altar?
This story isn’t just about a bride taking a stand; it’s about setting the tone for a marriage that won’t be held hostage by petty grievances or Facebook feuds. So, to our dear Reddit friend, I say this: You are not the asshole. You, my dear, are a trailblazer.
In a world where weddings often become more about the spectacle than the sentiment, our frustrated bride-to-be reminds us that sometimes, the most radical thing you can do is demand love, respect, and a little bit of sanity. And if that means putting the wedding on hold until Aunt Edna and Uncle Bob can play nice? So be it.
As for the rest of us, let’s take this as a lesson in love, patience, and the art of war (or at least, family squabbles). Because in the end, my darlings, the best weddings are the ones where love is the guest of honor, not drama.
Until next time, this has been Roger, spilling the tea with the finesse of a seasoned sommelier. Remember, love might win the war, but a sassy attitude will always win the battle. Cheerio!
Original story
I (22F) and my fiance (26 M) had our wedding date set for October of next year. We announced it 3 months ago at a family barbecue, and everyone seemed excited. We’ve been engaged for a little over a year now, and we wanted to announce the date before we even sent out invitations so everyone could plan for it.
Our initial plan to pay for the wedding went as followed: we save $500 each month for a year. We are getting married at the small-town family church, so $6,000 is plenty to cover what we need.
A week after the announcement my parents (brides parents) gave a very generous $2,000 donation to the wedding. My parents and my partners have about the same finances. My parents decided to skip their spring break trip to donate.
My mother-in-law heard about the donation. (we thanked my parents publicly but didn’t specify the amount.) She decided at the next family gathering to ask my parents about it, where she learned the amount and how they afforded that. There was some conversation before I walked over, but this is what I heard my MIL say to my fiancé: “Don’t worry, I’ll pay for your next one.” (My MIL hasn’t ever liked me, she says I’m dramatic. She’s probably right tbh.) My fiancé told her firmly to shut up. My parents looked pissed off as well.
My mom said she didn’t think it was fair that the brides side (of 6 people, small family), donated more than my finances side (20 people). I don’t have any grandparents or aunts and uncles left, so my family is smaller.
I told them that I love their donation, but my MIL’s side does not need to donate. My MIL responded with a snappy, “I’m not giving up my vacation just because you two are broke.” I got pissed, and told her again that I don’t want any money from her.
Mid-April, my MIL posts on Facebook about her spontaneous New York 5-day Vacation with other members of my fiancés side of the family. My parents got very offended, thinking that if they had enough for a spontaneous vacay, why don’t they help pay for the wedding. I think they exaggerated the trip out of spite, but I still kinda agree. BUT at the end of the day it’s their money.
Now it’s May and both sides of the family are posting sassy Facebook posts, messaging inappropriate comments, and some not even talking. I posted on Facebook that we’re putting the wedding off for now.
I posted “We are no longer planning our wedding for October. We want to be married and supported by loving family members, and we all know we’ve been lacking at that recently. We will replan the wedding at a later date.” I tagged everyone, and now everyone’s mad at me. I tried to stay out of the drama, but seriously- wtf!
AITA/ what do I do now??